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Re: COLPOTW: When Did You Come Out?

Travis Owen — Sun, 07 Oct 2012 15:20:23 -0000

I voted in my 20's, which is true. But I was 29, almost 30 when I fully came out. I suspected in Jr. High, and knew when I was just out of High School. I even had and was jacking off to male images all that time, and bought gay porn just out of high school. But could not admit it to anyone till I was about ready to come out, and I had a boss at work ask me the question he knew he should not have. But my first best fag hag friend/fruit fly told me that she prompted him to ask. Plus he told me at the time that I did not have to answer it. And that if the answer was yes, he would not care either way. So I decided to come out at work, then to my family as well. I have not looked back sense.

Re: COL 174: LIVE SHOW ON G+ ALL ABOUT US!

Gary Snyder — Tue, 28 Aug 2012 21:57:24 -0000

Damon, you deserve all the credit for reading that Craigslist post aloud. I had to clean my eyes after reading it personally. Great job guys!

Re: The COL Powerhour is on the air!

Gary Snyder — Thu, 23 Aug 2012 17:46:38 -0000

A different question to consider is... Would you rather take 60 shots of alcohol in an hour or 60 shots from hot men in an hour?

Re: COL169: “Dog Food With A Side Of Hate” or “How To Really Piss Off Another Wal-Mart Customer”

Aaron Sobczak — Tue, 24 Jul 2012 22:23:02 -0000

Dear Ben: Don't hate :)

Re: COLPOTW: Are You A Gold Star Gay

Tommy — Sun, 03 Jun 2012 01:05:43 -0000

Once was enough.

Re: COLSE003: Welcome To The Bear Underground

Beefchub Heiko — Thu, 04 Aug 2011 16:36:11 -0000

bear411.com is bull shit i pay webmaster remove my profile

Re: COLSE003: Welcome To The Bear Underground

Beefchub Heiko — Thu, 04 Aug 2011 16:35:25 -0000

Great website bearunderground.net best site

Re: COL151: 2010 Best of the Bears

GuinnessCub — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 11:05:27 -0000

Hey fellas. The podcast ends in the middle of the Northeast Ursamen interview at the 31:18 mark.

Re: Jabba The Bear Is Still A Bear

Freddy Freeman — Tue, 15 Feb 2011 14:58:34 -0000

Amen Jeff, you were fair and said everything perfectly. Thank You!

Re: COL148: Pocket Daddy Cub

chidiver — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 17:59:56 -0000

Cubs, or however you self-identify. With the announcement of Griff's imminent departure, I decided to drop you all a note of appreciation and a bon voyage to Griff.

Much like a intensely flavored and pungent cheese, I didn't immediately take to Griff. In time, his podcast persona grew on me and I came to enjoy his contributions to COL. Not that I don't enjoy all of the Cubs, but think that Griff and I are of similar ages and stations in life, and he was someone that I related to rather well. Much like a Buddhist Sand Mandala it is another lesson in impermanence as Griff parts ways from the Austin cubs and hopefully a new voice joins. Well, I've run out of metaphors to mix.

I suspect that at times you all question why you are podcasting. As a long time listener, I thank you for the times that your program. It kept me company while living a solitary life in the Middle East, provided entertainment commuting to work and a much needed distraction during my father's illness and death.

I feel that the show is better with three hosts and hope that you find a new "third leg" to replace Griff soon.

Re: COL049: 2008 Best of Bears Part 1

Izay Cabrera — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 01:38:52 -0000

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March is originally from San Francisco, California, where he worked as a costume designer for the long-running musical revue, Beach Blanket Babylon. His client list includes Madonna, Cirque du Soleil, Prince, Beyoncé Knowles, Thierry Mugler and Meryl Streep. He designed Streep's dress for the 2010 Academy Awards; the dress was a long sleeved white gown which made the best dressed list. His costuming efforts have also been recognized with a Drama Desk Award nomination in 2002 for "Christmas With the Crawfords." His flair for theatrical design translated into the creations he did for Project Runway, one collection composed of pieces fashioned with real human hair. March currently resides in New York City.

Warm Regards,
Izay Cabrera
Miami South Beach Hotels

Re: Jabba The Bear Is Still A Bear

TimCub — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 17:27:43 -0000

Jeff's opinions are his own, and they do not represent the views of Cubs Out Loud at large.

Re: COL147: Targeted Unit

chidiver — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 18:01:34 -0000

In response to Griff's comment that he suspected that Orbitz was a gay friendly company. I spent that last year and a half sharing an elevator bank with them and can assure you that they are not only gay friendly, but judging from their staff, very bear/cub friendly as well!

Re: COL141: Food Coma

chidiver — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 00:10:16 -0000

Shame on you Tim. Replacing a toilet requires one tool, two bolts, a wax seal, water connection and about 15 minutes of time. This is a simple project that you didn't need to hire out for.

Re: COL135: Did It Kill Your Geek Hard-On?

Todd — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 16:35:44 -0000

In jr. high I was often made fun of for being or acting "gay." I think this type of animosity towards gay people was definitely taught by parents and peers; I'm sure issue of gay rights made it a more common topic. However, in jr. high nothing is off limits. Kids were made fun of and picked on for everything including race, economic background, and mental or physical disabilities. It might still be okay to be openly homophobic these days, but kids certainly degrade their peers in ways that are deemed hateful and wrong by larger society. It's not just a gay issue, but bullying feels worse when it seems that the rest of society is against you as well. I think achieving equal rights would actually do a lot to improve the self-esteem of gay teenagers along with the slow shift in our culture's attitudes towards gay people. Parents and teachers are in the best position to try to actively put and end to bullying though. I'm not sure what gay population could do specifically.

I actually came out in high school while Queer Eye for the Straight Guy was at its peak in popularity. I think prominent depictions of gay men in the media do help gay teens feel more comfortable with themselves, but I was very worried that others would judge me by the stereotypes they saw in such shows. It was nice to see homosexuality acknowledged in a somewhat positive way, but it is certainly a double-edged sword.

As for DADT, I think it should be repealed, but it is never going to be my cause of choice. For one it is a good excuse if that draft comes back, but I do not live in a state that offers protection from discrimination based on sexual orientation (outside of state work), so I guess I don't feel all that bad... ? I think protesting Red Cross blood drives is probably the biggest waste of time though.

You said 24-year-olds should respond, so I did! Hopefully it wasn't too disjointed.

Re: COL133: Nuts Make Things Tasty!

Homer — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 17:01:06 -0000

I have to say I disagree with Griff's attack on apple tv. For some of us it offers allwe are looking for in a stylish package. I am constantly moving about my house and there is no other product that offers the airplay feature. I can be watching something on my ipad while cooking dinner in the kitchen hit a button and pick up right where I left off in my living room. Also it is a great solution for having access to all the music and videos on our macs which are running most of the time anyway so the limitation of having to have it on to stream doesn't impact us. I agree other boxes do more, but as someone living int he year 2010 I already have other devices to fill those voids such as the PS3 or internet enabled TV. I am sure Griff will rip these comments to shreds but I had to stand up for apple.

Re: COL131: You Want To See The Naughty Bits!

chidiver — Tue, 14 Sep 2010 19:58:25 -0000

In the early 2000's I worked for a big affiliate internet marketing company. I don't recall the specific details, but I somehow wound up being sent to Dallas to participate in a pitch to Blockbuster in Dallas. They had the reputation for being "arrogant, " but didn't think too much about it as it was the Internet boom and a$$holes were everywhere.

I flew down from Chicago and my boss from NYC. We sat in the reception area for about 30 minutes when the receptionist told us that the people we were to meet with were "too busy and to make another appointment." We had just spent a couple of grand to get there and they didn't even have the decency to step out of their office to tell us to hit the road? From that day on, I never set foot in Blockbuster store.

The funny thing is that I talked a friend out of investing in Red Box, yet every time I walk past one of their machines at the local supermarket, there is a line of soccer moms and their annoying spawn queueing up to rent the latests crap. Oops!

Re: COL129: The Heterophobic City

thegriff — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 12:56:56 -0000

We very much want the listeners to contribute...I think we mentioned that on the show. Send your favorite recipe to podcast@cubsoutloud.com.

Re: COL129: The Heterophobic City

chidiver — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 21:55:20 -0000

A COL cookbook would be fun! Can the listeners get involved and contribute?

Re: The Mobile Bear: Bear411

Bruno GALLIER — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 02:22:58 -0000

I usually use the notes to write down the real first name of some of my contacts when it's not visible on their profile (yes some of them put silly things instead :)).
Regarding the mobile app, it's ok. I would say rather basic but it does the minimum we could ask for such an application.

Re: A Non-Bear In A Bear World

Christopher Cennon — Sun, 08 Aug 2010 21:03:03 -0000

Hey there:

My perspective on the whole bear phenomenon is pretty limited to online communications; there aren't any particular bear groups that I know of in my area (or were there any in Saskatchewan, where I grew up), and I've not gone to whatever a bear run is.

Having said that, the only discrimination that I've seen is that of the guy that runs Bear411, who has decided that I'm not 'bear' enough. The guys at this podcast have been welcoming to all types (even JJ, with whom I disagreed with from time to time.) The Bear Room on gay.com seems to be some of the friendliest people I've met online (for the most part, anyway. I realize that there's jerks everywhere.)

People often say that the bear community is supposed to be all about acceptance, and while that's a lofty goal, I'm not sure that it's true... from what I've read, the bear community seemed to start as a reaction to the popular gay culture of "young, urban, and shaved". To be a bear was to not be one of THOSE guys, but to be yourself. Unless being yourself happened to be young, urban and shaved, I guess. Sort of exclusionary from the get-go, no?

People divide themselves up into subgroups all the time. I know a lot of time has been spent on this podcast by trying to define all these labels, but I've given up, myself. Part of the problem with figuring out what the bear community 'wants' is that the bear community is made up of actual people, who have the pesky attribute of having their own individuality. Some people are going to be exclusionary jerks, no matter what community they're a part of. Some people don't feel like being friendly to everyone they meet.

And some people don't know or care that they're being held up to someone else's standard just because they happen to be round(er) and fuzzy(er).

I dunno. The jury is still out, I guess. Food for thought, for whatever it's worth.

Cheers,
Chris

Re: A Non-Bear In A Bear World

chidiver — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 08:33:58 -0000

While I think that the gay community can frequently be rather compartmentalized, it may be because we, as a group are pretty focused on sex. After all, I have yet to walk into a straight bar and see "Grinder for Breeders" on anyone's mobile phone. Although maybe even subconsciously, we just become drawn to what we are attracted to and tend to now want to "burn time" talking to a twink.

During the filming of the original Planet of the Apes, the extras used to sit around during their meal breaks according to their species of ape. Still in costume, the gorillas would sit with gorillas, the chimpanzees would sit amidst chimpanzees, and the orangutans would only deign to dine with orangutans. "There'd be a kind of self-segregation," Charlton Heston told the New York Times a few years ago. "The gorillas would all eat at one table, the chimpanzees at another, the orangutans at another."

I'm pretty sure that there was no choreographed intent to group by species. I tend to believe that we are all just drawn to others that are like us; or want to bang.

Re: A Non-Bear In A Bear World

BrienBear — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 00:56:07 -0000

Hey - Mr Jason guy

Just so you know, some of us bears DO like thin(er) hairy guys :) And if you have facial hair, some of us like you EVEN MORE!

Dont think all the bears are that way - my tastes range from thin(er) guys who are hairy all the way up to chubby guys who are hairless... :)

-Brien

Re: COL123: Chili Can Be Fart-Proof

DavidinAZ — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 10:16:23 -0000

For the record it was a bean free chili competition. Most of these don't use beans it focuses on the treatment of the meat and sauce. My husbear and I are both quite legal US born citizens and are happy to show anyone our papers who wants to stop by for an appletini.

Re: COL115: Fisting While Partnered

gryphonjackson — Tue, 18 May 2010 04:29:59 -0000

Hey Guys

Just thought I would drop you a line to say hi, thanks for the great discussion especially the one about the HIV+ partnering. I was with someone for 4 years who was HIV+ and I swore I would never be with someone who had HIV again, it ripped me apart, and still to this very day 15 years later I still feel a void where he should be. But I have dated since so I've not totally kept in the past except for learning about my own limits.

So I was wondering if I could propose a topic to you guys, So I've been in a relationship for 10 years and recently its come to a mad screaming holt (Since December last year). I've started going out again dating, and I've noticed that the dating-scape has changed considerably. Is it the norm that people have forgotten how to do romantic thing (dinner and a movie, coffee dates etc), most people I meet just want to traverse the quick hook up thing. I want to meet someone likes romance, is romantic and will reciprocate in kind when I am romantic. Does this idea make me too gay to function? Is romance dead in the bear community?

Your loyal listener here in Adelaide, Australia

Gryphon Jackson
iCub_2010